Why Perfect is Not Always the Best: The Dangers of Perfectionism in Eating Habits

Written by: Angela Derrick, Ph.D. & Susan McClanahan, Ph.D.

Date Posted: June 5, 2023 12:40 am

Why Perfect is Not Always the Best: The Dangers of Perfectionism in Eating Habits


In today’s society, there is often a strong emphasis on perfection and attaining flawless standards in various aspects of life. Unfortunately, this obsession with perfection can extend to eating habits and lead to detrimental consequences, particularly among children and adolescents. 

As parents of children with eating disorders search for answers and help, it is vital to understand the dangers of perfectionism in relation to eating habits. This article aims to shed light on this issue, provide national statistics on the prevalence of eating disorders, and offer valuable insights to assist parents in supporting their children.

Understanding Eating Disorders

What are Eating Disorders?

Eating disorders are complex mental health conditions characterized by abnormal eating patterns and distorted perceptions of body weight and shape. If left untreated, they can have severe physical, emotional, and social consequences. Common types of eating disorders include:

  1. Anorexia Nervosa: Individuals with anorexia nervosa fear gaining weight and engage in restrictive eating behaviors, leading to significant weight loss and malnutrition.
  2. Bulimia Nervosa: Bulimia nervosa involves recurrent episodes of binge eating followed by compensatory behaviors such as self-induced vomiting, excessive exercise, or the misuse of laxatives.
  3. Binge Eating Disorder: This disorder involves recurring episodes of consuming large quantities of food without the compensatory behaviors seen in bulimia nervosa.

Prevalence of Eating Disorders

Eating disorders can affect individuals of all ages, genders, and backgrounds. According to national statistics:

  • Approximately 1% of young women in the United States suffer from anorexia nervosa.
  • The prevalence of bulimia nervosa among young women is estimated to be around 1-2%.
  • Binge eating disorder affects approximately 2-3% of the general population.

These figures underscore the issue’s significance and highlight the need for increased awareness and support for those struggling with eating disorders.

The Perfectionism Trap

Perfectionism and Eating Disorders

Perfectionism, characterized by an intense desire to achieve flawlessness and high standards, often plays a significant role in developing and maintaining eating disorders. Individuals with perfectionistic tendencies may believe their self-worth is tied to their ability to adhere to strict dietary rules or achieve a particular body shape. This relentless pursuit of perfection can lead to harmful behaviors and have a negative impact on physical and mental health.

Unrealistic Expectations and Self-Criticism

Perfectionism creates unrealistic expectations, fostering a cycle of self-criticism and dissatisfaction. When it comes to eating habits, individuals may set unattainable goals, such as strict calorie counting or eliminating entire food groups. These rigid standards can generate feelings of failure and guilt when they cannot meet them. Consequently, individuals may engage in disordered eating patterns to regain a sense of control or seek validation.

Social and Media Influences

The rise of social media and the constant exposure to carefully curated images of bodies can exacerbate perfectionistic tendencies and contribute to developing eating disorders. Comparing oneself to these unrealistic standards can fuel feelings of inadequacy and intensify the desire to achieve the unattainable. Therefore, it is crucial for parents and caregivers to foster a supportive environment that promotes body positivity and healthy self-esteem.

The Importance of Early Intervention

Recognizing the signs and symptoms of eating disorders is vital for early intervention and effective treatment. Some common indicators include:

  • Significant weight loss or fluctuations
  • Preoccupation with body image
  • Obsession with calorie counting or dieting
  • Changes in mood or behavior around mealtimes
  • Excessive exercise or avoidance of physical activity
  • Withdrawal from social activities involving food
  • Evidence of purging behaviors, such as frequent trips to the bathroom after meals 

If you notice any of these signs in your child, it is crucial to seek professional help as soon as possible. Early intervention significantly increases the chances of successful recovery and minimizes the long-term impact of eating disorders.

Case Study: Emma’s Journey to Recovery

To provide a real-life perspective on the dangers of perfectionism in eating habits, let’s explore the case of Emma, a teenager who struggled with an eating disorder. Emma, a high-achieving student, placed immense pressure on herself to excel academically and maintain an ideal physique. She developed strict dietary rules and became fixated on achieving the “perfect” body.

As Emma’s obsession with perfectionism intensified, her eating habits became increasingly restrictive. She limited her food intake, meticulously counted calories, and avoided social events involving food. Emma’s parents noticed her dramatic weight loss and its toll on her physical and mental well-being.

Recognizing the situation’s urgency, Emma’s parents sought professional help from experts, including therapists, dietitians, and medical professionals specializing in eating disorders. Emma embarked on her journey to recovery through a comprehensive treatment plan that included therapy, nutritional counseling, and family support.

Over time, Emma learned to challenge her perfectionistic beliefs and develop a healthier relationship with food and her body. Through therapy, she discovered the underlying emotional triggers driving her perfectionism and developed coping strategies to manage stress and anxiety more effectively.

Emma’s story highlights the importance of early intervention and a holistic approach to treating eating disorders. It emphasizes the significance of addressing the root causes of perfectionism and providing individuals with the tools to build self-acceptance and resilience.

Seeking Help and Support

If you suspect your child may be struggling with an eating disorder, it is crucial to take action and seek professional help. Contact healthcare providers, therapists, or support groups specializing in eating disorders. They can guide you through the diagnosis process and provide tailored treatment options.

Additionally, educating yourself about eating disorders and their associated risks can empower you to support your child effectively. Reliable resources and organizations dedicated to eating disorder awareness, such as the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) and the Academy for Eating Disorders, can provide valuable information and support.

Springsource Psychological Center: A Glimpse into Our Mission

We believe in the healing power of empathy and scientific knowledge combined. Springsource Psychological Center, a private practice for individuals, couples, families, and adolescents, is proud to be a part of the supportive Chicagoland community. We work tirelessly to create an environment conducive to mental wellness, growth, and resilience.

If you’re wrestling with an eating disorder, it can feel like a lonely battle. But remember, you’re not alone. At Springsource, we offer specialized treatment programs designed to aid recovery and promote a healthy relationship with food. Contact us at 224-202–6260 and begin your healing journey today!


Perfectionism in eating habits can have severe consequences, particularly among children and adolescents. Therefore, it is crucial for parents to recognize the dangers associated with perfectionism and its link to eating disorders. By understanding the prevalence of these disorders and the role perfectionism plays in their development, parents can provide the necessary support and seek early intervention.

Remember, perfection is not the best approach when it comes to eating habits. Encourage a balanced, flexible approach that promotes self-acceptance, body positivity, and overall well-being. Parents should avoid any negative comments about bodies, including their own.  By fostering a supportive environment and seeking professional help, you can help your child overcome the dangers of perfectionism and embark on a path towards recovery and a healthy relationship with food and their body.


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  3. U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. (2016). Eating Disorders: About More Than Food. Retrieved from https://www.womenshealth.gov/a-z-topics/eating-disorders